Attention is experience! This little piece of advice is good for relationships and life in general. Where we place our attention will determine the experience we will have. If we put all of our attention on how our partner is annoying or does not help, our experience will be an unhappy one. We will experience our partner being annoying and not helping. If we place our attention on something good our partner has done, or focus on the good things in general, we tend to have positive and happy experiences. The same sentiments can be used in life! This is a good lesson to practice in your marriage, with kids, at work, with family. Choose where you place your focus and attention, so you may have the experience you want. We have more control than we think.